Age Should Bring More Personal Style, Not Less
As people grow older, self doubt and lack of confidence can often grow. I read a post this morning from a girl turning 20 soon, how she feels the next decade should somehow make her feel different. Show visible changes etc. I thought the same as I turned from 19 to 20. But as I’ve gotten older I’ve discovered more about what I like, what style works for me (both in clothes and things like hair and even, interiors) and as a result I’ve developed a new sense of confidence that goes with it.
What to Do With Your Hair
I used to obsess over having long hair, mainly because I’ve never had it so I was always jealous of girls that had long locks. I often faked it with extensions etc that began to look a bit ratty over time. But as I’ve grown older I’ve learned to love short and mid-length hair. It’s so much easier to maintain and style. Plus, I’ve found that once my hair gets to a certain length it is always in the way. It might be that your long locks are getting a little harder to maintain, and short hair with bangs could work better in complementing your face shape and generally helping you feel like a million dollars. I cut my own fringe around two months ago, and loved it for about two weeks. But I realised I hate having hair in my face (which is why it’s always in a bun or tied back!). I never realised this when I was younger and I’m glad I figured something out that works for me.
Shorter or trimmer hair often looks more organized, tighter and more noble, think of Anna Wintour’s perfect bob. This can make you look gorgeous, and open ups the face making you more visible. It might also be that a new dye could help you gain a lease of life. While silver hair is often gorgeous in its own right, it might be you’d prefer a chestnut brown or a darker, onyx form of styling. I’ve experimented with every colour of the rainbow and have decided that a dark-brown, almost black suits me best!
As we get older, we are often seen as more experienced or well-travelled. This can be both a true and false assumption – but why not make the most of it if you can? Imbuing your wardrobe with formal small blazers to be worn atop your comfortable shirts, or deciding on a more formal accessorizing is a way to make you look more professional if your outfits are on the more casual side.
What I mean by ‘formal’ is mostly understated, sharp and clean. Dressing smart does not mean ‘dressing old’ or worrying about never looking good in the hip, fashionable clothes. I’ve stocked up on four, very different looking blazers. On top of a pair of beat up jeans and white shirt the blazer can add a whole element of professionality to an outfit that wasn’t there before. It’s especially useful if you’re freelance like myself, as most of your wardrobe won’t be office wear. Having things that are professionally versatile is very useful!
I always think it’s nice to add a bit of your personality to an outfit and always be adapting and learning about fashion. I’ve recently decided to go more eco-friendly with my wardrobe and I’m discovering new and amazing brands that are a lot kinder to the environment than stores like Primark. Plus, I love adding bits to an outfit from any travels or adventures I’ve been on!
Trying New Things
Don’t be afraid of change. When it comes to looking your best now, it might mean that you should throw out some of your old garments. This is perfectly normal and achievable. Just last month I sold 86 items of my wardrobe on Ebay, as well as gaining new funds I made some much needed closet space! Of course, some items might have sentimental value. We’re not asking you to throw out your lucky hat or your bridal gown. However, regularly replacing your jeans, shirts, and of course undergarments will do a lot to help you feel fresh. Fashion changes, and sometimes colors can clash. While it might feel that your garment of clothing is more than comfortable, sometimes it pays to see that it’s condition is a little less than you originally thought.
Fresh, clean clothes in themselves can do a lot to make you feel updated and beautiful, even if the fashion isn’t overstated. Be sure to regularly update things that get worn easily or go out of style quickly such as your footwear, accessories and clothing, and you’ll always find something newly and well presented, something that ties together well with the current day.
Use > Appearance
I’ve grown to realise that the time old ‘I’d rather be comfy, than stylish’ is absolutely true. When my mom used to ask me ‘Are you really going to wear that?’ I would know deep down it wasn’t the most practical item I was holding in my hands, but it probably was beautiful. I’ve learned that there is a middle ground between beautiful, useful and comfy. I’ve found a lot of it lies in eco-friendly fashion too. There is always utility in dressing well and feeling good.
Experimenting with your dress and finding new alternatives that you simply adore is a really great way of finding use out of items that you haven’t used in a while. For a recently Uni project I made a friend create 10 outfits from using only 10 items in her wardrobe. It requires a lot of creativity and excellent styling. It was a lot of fun and it definitely showed in her confidence in the photos!
What are some things you’ve learned about your own style ad you’ve gotten older? What life lessons do you think you’ll be telling your kids about what to wear?
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